Betty of Thomas Friedman Is a Great Man,
C.I. of The Common Ills and The Third Estate Sunday Review,
Cedric of Cedric's Big Mix,
Wally of The Daily Jot,
Stan of Oh Boy It Never Ends,
Isaiah of The World Today Just Nuts,
and Ann of Ann's Mega Dub.
Yeah, I swiped that from Third. I'm dead tired. C.I. had to participate because Beth had questions specifically for her. Instead of doing the usual column this week (it'll be in inboxes at 6:00 am EST), Beth did a roundtable.
It was on the Nir Rosen mess. After it was over, a number of us were groaning into the phone about how tired we were (it was close to midnight). C.I. told us not to worry about posting anything and we all said, "No, we'll do our part." So C.I. offered that she'd go to sleep right now (right then) if the rest of us would. So we all agreed to that after C.I. swore and explained that she didn't want to upstage Beth's piece.
One of the things that came up was some community members (I have no idea) wondered why C.I. wasn't registering more outrage or emphasis on the Anderson Cooper aspect of Nir Rosen's remarks. C.I. had rgistered it. But, as C.I. reminded in the roundtable, she can write about that for the newsletters but she really can't for online. She can (and has) praised Anderson and negatively criticized him over the years for his work as she felt it was needed. But to address what was said about Anderson Cooper by Nir Rosen would be tricky terrain because she knows Anderson and Anderson's erected a wall between his public life and his private life and to really call out what Nir Rosen wrote would require ignoring that wall. I think most of you can follow that. If you can't, the gina & krista round-robin hits your e-mail (if you're a community member) at 6:00 am this morning.
C.I.'s called it out and she's called out Nir Rosen. As Kat said in the roundtable proper (done by Gina and Krista), C.I. made herself physically sick taking on the issue in Thursday's snapshot. To write about that, she has to go to a place (and she explains in Beth's roundtable because Beth asked about it) that's very uncomfortable.
I understand that because, as I've shared here before, I was raped. I was lucky in that I saw justice. My rapist got convicted and sentenced. Many women don't get that closure or justice.
So I really don't think we need excuses for Nir Rosen who has argued that Anderson Cooper should have been sexually assaulted and that his being sexually assaulted would be "funny" and that Lara Logan deserved to be sexually assaulted.
Guess what, Nir Rosen, you might think I'm the biggest bitch in the world. That still doesn't give you or anyone else the right to sexually assault and/or rape me.
Like C.I., this is not a topic I can easily write about. I needed the sleep to get to the point where I could write about this.
I didn't deserve to be raped. No one deserves it. And I was lucky to have a really good therapist to work with after my rape.
Nir Rosen's rapist mentality is outrageous. It goes beyond uneducated, he's reinforcing the excuses that rapists grant themselves for their behavior, "She had it coming."
It's not that it was a rude or crude joke. It's that the hatred is there, the desire to commit a crime is there in his own words.
It's disgusting and it's offensive. And it needs to be called out.
"The Media Overreaction" insists Michelle Goldberg at The Daily Beast. In that bad article she 'shares':
Which brings us to Rosen. His comments about Logan were grotesque, and came from a very twisted place. But he apologized fulsomely and sincerely, and has kept apologizing. In an interview on Mediabistro after the whole thing happened, he seemed profoundly mortified. “I feel like when you have done something so offensive and stupid, even trying to explain it seems like you are justifying it and what you say will be taken out of context,” he said, later adding, “I feel like shrinking now, I am so embarrassed for what I have done and how many people I offended. I always meant for my work to offend the powerful and give comfort to the weak. Yesterday I did the opposite of that.” He’s done himself few favors with subsequent, defensive attempts to explain himself—especially the self-serving essay he wrote for Salon. Still, the general picture is of someone grappling with real remorse and humiliation.
And she's not the only apologist:
“What happened to Lara Logan was horrific, and to me as a woman journalist deeply upsetting,” says Kaplan. “I spend a lot of time trying to encourage women reporters to do this kind of reporting, to not cede the field of conflict reporting to men. I’m devastated by this, and the fact that Nir made the comments that he made is unacceptable, period. But the body of his work in reporting on these wars is also invaluable, and that shouldn’t be lost in this current debate.”The body of his work? Have you been raped, Esther? If not, maybe you need to shut the hell up. Do you not get, you stupid apologist for your little buddy, that what a trigger Nir Rosen's claims were for those of us who have been raped?
We are raped by men who think we have it coming. Men who express the same mind-set as Nir Rosen. And we need to 'get over it' and remember his entire body of work.
You mean that work that failed to note the assaults on Iraqi women and the assaults on Iraq's LGBT community?
That body of work, where he turned a blind eye to those things he judged unimportant?
Is that what you mean, Esther Kaplan?
And Michelle Goldberg, when the hell did he ever apologize?
I've caught his online interviews and his bit on CNN and his Salon column. None of those are apologies. I got a letter of apology from my rapist when he was first up for parole. That's an apology? No, it was an attack on me.
And what Nir Rosen has offered has been an attack on Lara Logan. He's said "I'm sorry" but then gone on to attack her again and again and again.
As New York magazine's Julie Gerstein observes:
In the essay, "How 480 characters unraveled my career," Rosen took many more than his original 480 characters to paint a picture of himself as progressive martyr. Rather than apologize and walk away, Rosen used Salon as a platform to attack his enemies, unfold a right wing conspiracy theory and pontificate on his new victim status.
And yet, in all the tweets, essays and interviews, Rosen has yet to come across and truly contrite and apologetic. Maybe he should use some of his new-found free time to work on that.That is exactly correct. There has been no apology.
Let me be really clear about sexual assault because, clearly, Michelle and Esther don't know a damn thing. It takes a criminal to break the law. It takes a culuture of minimization and enabling to turn rape and sexual assault into a national crisis.
Michelle Goldberg and Esther Kaplan need to shut the hell up and stop excusing rape mentality. Nir Rosen's their little buddy. Their little buddy is grossly offensive. They need to shut the hell up and stop rescuing him. Their inability to call him out is no different from those who stand on the sideline and watch a woman get raped. Not only has Nir not taken accountability for his actions, neither have Michelle and Esther.
This is C.I.'s "Iraq snapshot:"